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Are you willing to ‘lose’?

By July 24, 2008March 10th, 2019Blog

Here is a quote from Neale Donald Walsh that got me pondering

..that you must be willing to lose it all before you can have it all.

What does this mean? It means that until you can let

go of everything, you will find it

hard to hold onto anything.

Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to

something that you are deeply unhappy without it,

then you are not simply attached, you are addicted.”

I am a big proponent of detachment, I learned it from cats…literally. I used to do animal healing, Tellington Touch and communication. I had a pet sitting business for 6 years till i sold it when my twins came along. It was a magical and transformative time for me. It was the beginning of my spiritual path.

I love animals, i had to close a business I had put my heart and soul in to and I was hurt that people would not pay you…it was my first life “deconstruction”. I left L.A. afraid of people and wanted to do something where I had minumum contact with people. I moved to New Mexico, I knew there was more to life than working all the time and being exhausted.(More on that another time…) back to detachment;

Cats have detachment as one of their ‘species qualities’. All species have certain qualities they express, like one of dogs is loyalty, easy to see, huh!? Well, the beauty of detachment (and the reason many people do not like cats), is that they are experts at not being attached. They can ask for what they want, they can want to be loved, fed, pet, played with, but on their terms. When they are done, they go off on their own. No attachments.

We would be so much happier if we were easily able to ask for what we want and yet not be at all attached to the outcome. It sounds odd, try it with a few minor things in your life. When you let go of how, when and if it is going to happen, even though you see and ask for it clearly ang with passion, you are happy all throughout the process. You stay happy whether it comes today or never. You feel happy because of what is inside of you, what you choose to feel and think. Not because of things outside of you.

Being willing to ‘lose’ it all, means you accept that everything is an illusion, always changing and there is always more & better available to you. Sometimes losing turns out to be the best thing that ever happened. Give it a chance, look for the ‘gift in the problem’s hands for you’ (that was my blog “Illusions, problems and gifts” the other day, read it by clicking here).

Tomorrow we will talk about KNOWING; knowing you know everything, can have anything, whatever you have asked for is on it’s way… because his is another key to staying happy and harmonic! As soon as you decide you really know you can have, be or do something, it is yours…right then!